10 things at 30
#89: Scraps and findings from living; it's all humble and slow
I turned 30 on January 30th. Through my first three decades, here are some things that have stuck with me — some learnt over many years and some more recent:
Be skeptical of people with answers. Embrace people with questions.
We are shaped by what we don’t know as much by what we do know.
Make family of your friends. Hold loosely the people that don’t fit.
Speaking of friends: Relationships have a sweet spot. You cannot supersede the sweet spot or rush friendships into new territory. Take your time.
We are walking contradictions — not because we’re hypocrites, but because our actuality exceeds our awareness.
There is no such thing as a late-bloomer. Everything is on time. Slower is better and more beautiful.
Feelings are meant to be felt and moved on from. No feeling is final.
Anxiety, meet acceptance — the cure for a wide range of pains.
Therapy helps because of active listening and good questions.
Everything inside gets out. Find ways to express yourself.
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Humble and slow 📷
Perhaps nothing teaches you more than walking and friends. Fitting that sentiment, here are a few local scenes from a walk with Dan and Matilda.
True miscellanea 💡
52 Things I Know About Making Things, from Eric Maierson
All of these are wise and perfectly true. The whole thing resonated with me greatly, but a newer perspective was this: “What matters most is not your ‘originality’ but the authenticity of your voice.” What a tidy way to settle the originality debate.
In the Garden With Gucci & Gerald the “Veg King”, from High Snobiety
Wholesome high-fashion influencer content? Who woulda thunk.
”An expert is someone who, over many years, manages to remain confident enough to keep trying and humble enough to keep learning.“